Charis Around the World
Childbirth in Kenya
by Jannekah Guya, Charis midwifery student
The Guyas' arrival in the U.S. and all their
wonderful family who came to welcome them!
This Mother's Day I found myself surrounded
by hurting friends. Just two days before the celebrated day, very dear friends
of ours, along with their entire family and community, found themselves
unexpectedly grieving the sudden death of their 38 week gestation little girl. Another very dear friend of mine who served as my doula in Kenya for the birth
of our son, recently unexpectedly lost her own son who was in his early twenties
and very newly married. And yet another very dear friend is mourning the sudden
passing of her own mother.
I myself have experienced some sad Mother's Days, like the one right after we
lost our first baby, or several years when I didn't know where my own mother was
and had no contact with her, though I longed for it. But I don't remember it
ever occurring to me how much sadness Mother's Day must bring to many, for many
different reasons. I think of women like my Kenyan sister in law who has been
married for 3 years now and has not yet conceived a baby. Her husband is getting
impatient, the community is getting suspicious, and she grows more ashamed,
fearful, and desperate as time marches on.
I don't mean to be depressing, but lately it feels like I've been faced a lot
more with the harder, sadder parts of childbearing than anything else. It's easy
when everything goes beautifully and as planned. When it's all by the book and
it's all glorious smiles and victories ANYONE could and would want to do this
with their lives. But I'm realizing that when we're tried and tested with the
challenges, emergencies, disappointments, chaos, and heartbreak, we come face to
face with our true self. What kind of woman, friend, midwife, doula, and most
importantly, Christian, am I? Am I REALLY willing to get down in the deep dark
trenches with these precious women at the point of their greatest suffering and
needs, or do I only want to be a part of the happy, fun, beautiful moments when
everything goes "right"?
Whenever we're visiting the U.S. I find it so challenging to explain how dire
the situation is in Kenya when it comes to childbearing and the medical system
in general. It's hard for the average American to conceptualize it in any way
because they don't have any point of reference. There is a lot of sadness and
hardship surrounding it all, but because of Jesus there is ALWAYS hope. There's
always a dream of a brighter day. There's always joy and strength, even in the
midst of pain that is so deep it seems debilitating.
That's what God reminded me this Mother's Day. We are called be a part of the
most incredible, beautiful, miraculous, life-changing event a woman can
experience. But we are also called to love them, encourage them, and support
them through the darkest, most devastating kinds of life changing moments a
woman could ever possibly experience as well. We are to give our time, our
hearts, our strength, and our wisdom to the women in our lives. We are to give
sacrificially and lovingly. I pray the Lord will help me be more like Jesus as I
strive to pour myself out and love like He does - through good times and bad, the
best and the worst.
"For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:
a time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
a time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
a time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;"
Ecclesiastes 3:1-4
Martin and Jannekah Guya
with their babies, Amariah, Ezriel and
Adali Lynn |
Our International Charis
Family
Your stories from around the world touch us and we pray for your
safety.
Thanks, Love and Blessings to every one of you!
'Behold, I will bring them from the north country, And gather them
from the ends of the earth,
Among them the blind and the lame,
The woman with child and The one who labors with child, together,
A
great throng shall return there...And My people shall be satisfied with My goodness, says the LORD.'
Jeremiah 31:8, 14~~~
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