Charis Around the World
Childbirth in Kenya
by Jannekah Guya
Three year old Amariah on the grave of her great-grandfather
in his ancestral village of Otonglo.
A little
over 4 weeks ago we received the tragic news that my husband’s
father had been violently murdered in the Kenyan slum where my
husband was born and raised. It was such a devastating blow
and while we were still dealing with our own shock and sadness, we
had to take on the difficult responsibility of handling all the
cultural details and financial burdens surrounding death in Kenya.
My
husband is the first born and only son of his father and so the
whole family is looking to him, even though his father was estranged
from him and from the entire family as a whole. As long as I
live in Africa, there will be some cultural things that I’ll just
never ever understand. Things that will break my heart, and
sometimes, even make me righteously indignant.
As much as there are many beautiful and wonderful things about many
parts of Kenyan culture, some cultural practices do nothing but put
the people in bondage. I think it’s probably true of every
culture, that there are just some things that we do, think, and
believe that are of no benefit to us and that only rob us from the
freedom Christ paid everything for us to have. It must grieve
Him deeply to see us choosing to live in captivity.
In Kenya, when someone dies, their body is transported back to the
village of their ancestors –to their tribal land. If they
didn’t have a house on that land, one is built for their body to
spend the night in before they are buried. The whole village
comes for a weeklong feast and sometimes even new outdoor toilets
are dug to serve all the visitors. There are many other
cultural requirements surrounding death here, most of which are
based out of fear, especially of the wrath of the deceased if they
are not treated “properly” after their death and the many many days
leading up to their burial.
You’re probably wondering what all this has to do with birth and why
I am writing about it in a midwifery newsletter. I’ve been
thinking a lot about this whole big process and all that Kenyans put
into caring for an honoring a person who has died. It’s caused
me to wonder at how interesting it is that people, who couldn’t have
cared less about Martin’s father or how he was living when he was
alive, are now insisting that we build a house for his empty body.
And I wonder how different life in general in Kenya would be if
people here would care about and honor the living half as much as
they do the dead.
How amazing and beautiful and God-honoring would it be if when a
baby was born we built them a house?! What if instead of
waiting for someone to die to throw a big feast, we did it when they
were born, or better yet, gave all the money that was raised by the
community for such festivities to the parents to set them up to feed
their family for months and months?! What if we put more care
and concern into the living conditions of someone who is actually
alive than someone who is no longer present in their body or
anywhere on this earth?
This is yet another reason why God-centered midwifery is so crucial
and desperately needed in this country. My prayer is that by
God’s grace we will start to value life when, and in ways that it
truly matters – to the life we are impacting, and most importantly
to God. I will certainly spend all that I have left of my life
on this earth to reach that end.
Martin,
Amariah,
Jannekah
and
Ezriel Guya |
Our International Charis
Family
Your stories from around the world touch us and we pray for your
safety.
Thanks, Love and Blessings to every one of you!
'Behold, I will bring them from the north country, And gather them
from the ends of the earth,
Among them the blind and the lame,
The woman with child and The one who labors with child, together,
A
great throng shall return there...And My people shall be satisfied with My goodness, says the LORD.'
Jeremiah 31:8, 14~~~
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