Next month I celebrate 13 years since I
first set foot in Kenya, which incidentally was the same moment Kenya captured
my heart. I remember wondering if God had brought me to Kenya because He knew
I’d love it so much, or if I loved Kenya so much because it was a love God had
wired in me from the very start. I remember struggling to understand my roommate
from Finland, who was the only other western foreigner in training with me. She
was so homesick, and while I missed my family very much, I was so enamored with
Kenya from the moment I arrived, I couldn’t fathom wasting a single moment
pining away for a place that was beginning to feel less and less like home all
the time.
Kenya is my true home now and I have spent so many years learning to fit in, and
more and more often feeling like I really do. Sometimes I literally even forget
that on the outside I stand out so contrastingly much and for hours I can be in
a community of beautiful dark brown faces, genuinely forgetting I do not blend
right in with everyone else. Of course I never ever have and I never ever will,
and eventually something always wakes me up out of my lovely illusion. Maybe
it’s a baby crying because they’ve never seen a white person, maybe it’s a
fascinated child coming to rub my skin to see if the color (or lack of it) will
rub off. Or maybe it’s something more traumatic like someone grabbing me and
dragging me down a back alley at knife point, or when I know I’m literally
risking my life to walk through the slum alone in the middle of the night to
attend a birth. Maybe, it’s something like what happened this week, when dear
friends of ours had their home invaded and were robbed at gunpoint and
threatened with death in front of their two small daughters. This happened
because they are foreigners and were consequently targeted because of the
perception that they are rich (which comparatively speaking is typically true of
foreigners living in Kenya). Knowing that they were being watched and plotted
against for a long time has been a big reality check for me. Not one I feel I
need to dwell on or become fearful over, but maybe to serve as a reminder that
we are not always as safe as we wish we were, but that doesn’t change Who God
is.
I know that people get assaulted and robbed at gunpoint all over the world for
all varieties of reasons. But there are differences here that make it a little
more scary. The most obvious and most dangerous difference being…..me. When I
have visitors from other parts of the world come and walk with me here in Kenya,
without exception they comment on how strange and unnerving it is the way they
feel they stand out and how awkward they feel being stared at constantly
wherever we go, with no way to blend in or go unnoticed. I remember my early
days here, when one of the things I looked forward to most on visits back to the
states was being able to be invisible – to walk down the street without anyone
noticing or caring in the least. Over the years I have trained myself to become
blind to the gawking and very unwanted attention and can pretty easily move
around and forget that everyone has stopped what they are doing to watch my
every move.
So I suppose I feel especially jolted when I am reminded that I AM being watched
constantly and that it might result in danger for me and my family – that my
kids are a real target for kidnapping for ransom, and that my home is a lot less
safe because I live there. I don’t like having to face the fact that I will
NEVER fully fit in in Kenya. Even if I live here 100 years, even if my husband
and children are Kenyan, even if I speak the language fluently, and even if I
can cook the best chapatti this side of the equator, I will always be seen as an
outsider on some level.
Other differences include things like police corruption. If I call the police
for help here, they probably won’t come unless I pay them to, and even then, if
they happen to be in partnership with the assailants, which is likely, I will
end up being sorry I paid them to come in the first place. Knowing this, my
friends paid a watchman at their gate and had a private security firm install a
panic button in their home in case of emergency. And when the emergency came,
the armed robbers had come and gone and done all their damage long before the
expensive security firm arrived. If my family is hurt during an attack, it could
take hours to get to a hospital that will able to help them, and then they
probably won’t be helped before the hospital is paid, which makes things tricky
when you’ve just been robbed. Many hospitals here don’t have ambulances, and in
some areas you can try to privately hire a Red Cross ambulance, but there’s
always a chance they’ll all be in use and none will be available for you at the
time of your emergency.
It makes me look at the big stone wall around our house and our big metal doors
with big padlocks and think, really, it’s all just for show. And not for those
who would mean us harm; it’s show for ourselves. It’s all an attempt to comfort
ourselves with the idea that we have made ourselves safe, when the reality is,
if someone wanted to get in and harm us, they could and they would. The reality
is “Unless the Lord watches over a city, the watchman stays awake in vain.”
– Psalm 127:1 The reality is, even if we serve the Lord with all that we are and
with all that we have, even if we pray for peace and protection and our often
misunderstood ideas of blessing every day – that doesn’t mean we won’t face
danger or opposition….or death.
I was in Kenya and pregnant with our first surviving child during the
post-election tribal war in 2008. My husband and I got separated and he was
stuck on the other side of the conflict in an area where his tribe was the
number one target. I truly didn’t know if I would ever see him again. During
that time the Nicole Nordeman song “Gratitude” became real in my life and I have
thought of it many times over the years when things like this happen.
She sings:
“Wrap us up and warm us through
Tucked away beneath our sturdy roofs
Let us slumber safe from danger's view this time
Grant us peace, Jesus, grant us peace
Move our hearts to hear a single beat
Between alibis and enemies tonight
Or maybe not, not today
Peace might be another world away
And if that's the case
We'll give thanks to You with gratitude
For lessons learned in how to trust in You
That we are blessed beyond what we could ever dream
In abundance or in need
And if You never grant us peace
But, Jesus, would You please”
When we encounter suffering and injustice, so often our first questions are,
“What did I do wrong? Why is the Lord punishing me?”
Or “Why did God allow this to happen?” In other words, “Is He REALLY loving and
good?”
And that’s the most important question of all. It’s important because the answer
is YES! No matter what happens, no circumstance can ever change what God says or
Who He is. Bad, unjust things happen to people who love Him but it doesn’t
change that He IS good. He IS loving. He IS faithful. He IS mighty. He IS holy.
He said, “I have told you these things, so that in ME you may have PEACE.” In
this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I HAVE OVERCOME THE WORLD!” –
John 16:33 (my emphasis) What did He tell us so that we would have
peace in Him no matter the trouble we face in this world? – “When a woman is
giving birth, she has sorrow because her hour has come, but when she has
delivered the baby, she no longer remembers the anguish, for joy that a human
being has been born into the world. So also you have sorrow now, but I will see
you again, and your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take your joy from you.”
– John 16:21-22
Amen.
Martin and Jannekah Guya and their babies,
Amariah (7), Ezriel (5), Adali
(2), Shiloah (4 months)
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