Charis Around the World
Childbirth in Kenya
by Jannekah Guya
Praying over Mama Christine's home, the
midwifery ministry and claiming Isaiah 55:8-13
I had
a new midwifery experience this month. I actually almost forsook the
call to midwifery for fear of this very experience. And it was just
as painful and difficult as I always feared it would be. I lost a
baby at birth. He lived outside his mama for one hour, and then he
was gone. His name was Mutuku, which in his tribal language of
Kikamba means “rain”, because it started pouring rain during his
birth.
I didn’t see it coming. His labor was long and exhausting, for all
of us, but nothing out of the ordinary for a first time mama. I
listened to his heartbeat just minutes before he was born. It was
strong and loud and fast, about 160 beats per minute. We could see
his little kicks on his mama’s belly as she labored and worked so
very hard to bring him into this world.
He finally made his miraculous appearance, all wrapped and tangled
up in his umbilical cord, which was wrapped 3 times around his
little neck. It took a while for the midwife to untangle him, and
then he just lay there.
We worked on him for a long time. I still remember how he smelled
and how he tasted as I tried to breathe and pray life into him. I
remember how his eyes looked empty and blank, like he wasn’t present
with me at all. I remember the shock and horror I felt when I
couldn’t hear his heartbeat anymore. I remember how his little body
felt in my hands as I tried to compress his little heart and get it
going again. I remember how helpless and desperate I felt as nothing
I did changed anything. I remember how badly I wanted him to come
back. I remember how warmth started to leave his body. I remember
how beautiful and perfect and peaceful he looked as his precious
little body laid there, devoid of his spirit. I remember everyone
looking at me, expecting me to perform a miracle, and how guilty and
ashamed I felt when I failed to do that. I couldn’t even say the
words. How could I look them in the eye and tell them he was gone?
I’ve never felt so numb and so broken at the same time. I managed to
keep it together pretty well until I got home. It didn’t seem fair
that I got to come home to my beautiful babies and Mutuku’s mommy’s
arms were empty. I wept and wept for a long time. I was feeling so
very lost. I didn’t even know how to begin processing this. I am for
the one-millionth time so very thankful for my precious Charis
family to whom I was able to reach out to and receive immediate help
to begin that journey.
The following morning I got a call from the midwife’s landlord. He
was irate and said that he wanted her out of her house by the end of
the day. So apart from the pain and process we were all already
going through, we also had to deal with that extreme stress.
Thankfully Mutuku’s family was so gracious and kind. They even
called the landlord and asked him not to punish the midwife for what
happened because it wasn’t her fault, it was just a normal part of
life and they believed their baby would have died no matter where he
would have been born, which I also believe is quite possibly true. I
later found out the father (who wasn’t at the birth) is a Muslim and
so the baby had to be buried within 24 hours. It also meant there
would be no autopsy, which I was selfishly disappointed about, just
because I long for answers and the closure they might help bring. I
know, however, that so much more important than my own pain and
struggle is my responsibility to minister to Mutuku’s mommy and
family, to the midwife, and to the young American girl who was also
present with me at the birth.
It’s ironic that as afraid as I was of this experience, and as
excruciatingly painful as it has been, I haven’t considered giving
up midwifery even for a second. Instead I am more inspired,
determined, and desperate than ever to become the best, most
knowledgeable midwife I can possibly be, and to pass that on to
other midwives across the continent so that all women and babies can
safely and joyfully make their birth passage into being a happy,
healthy family.
For some reason, God wanted me there at that very birth…and death. For some reason He wants me involved in Mutuku’s mommy’s life, and
knew ahead of time that she would need my presence and love and the
hope I can offer her in Jesus. For some reason He didn’t answer my
desperate pleas to let Mutuku stay or to bring him back to us. I’ve
realized that I don’t get to know or understand all these reasons. A
dear friend of mine reminded me that I am just the hands, voice and
heart of Jesus...He is the One who has control over everything else.
I just have to trust and obey Him.
“Death is swallowed up in victory.”
1 Corinthians 15:55
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Our International Charis
Family
Your stories from around the world touch us and we pray for your
safety.
Thanks, Love and Blessings to every one of you!
'Behold, I will bring them from the north country, And gather them
from the ends of the earth,
Among them the blind and the lame,
The woman with child and The one who labors with child, together,
A
great throng shall return there...And My people shall be satisfied with My goodness, says the LORD.'
Jeremiah 31:8, 14~~~
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