Baby Tantrums
By Elizabeth Pantley,
Author of Gentle Baby Care
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A baby’s first tantrum can take
you by surprise. Your baby can really shock you by shrieking,
stamping, hitting, or making his whole body go stiff. But don’t take
it personally; baby tantrums aren’t about anything you’ve done
wrong, and they aren’t really about temper, either – your
baby isn’t old enough for that. The ways you’ll respond to your
baby’s behavior when he is older are different than how you should
respond now.
Why babies have tantrums and
what you can do about it
A baby tantrum is an abrupt and
sudden loss of emotional control. Various factors bring tantrums on,
and if you can identify the trigger, then you can help him calm down
¾ and perhaps even avoid the tantrum in the first place. Here are
the common reasons and ways to solve the problem:
Reason for tantrum |
Possible solution |
Overtiredness |
Settle baby down to sleep; Provide quiet activity |
Hunger |
Give baby a snack or something to drink |
Frustration |
Help baby achieve his goal or remove the frustration; Use
distraction |
Fear/anxiety |
Hold and cuddle baby; Remove baby from difficult situation |
Inability to communicate |
Try to figure out what he wants; Calmly encourage him to show
you |
Resisting change |
Allow a few minutes for baby to make adjustment |
Over stimulation |
Move baby to a quiet place |
How to prevent
baby tantrums
Often, you can
prevent a baby from losing control of his emotions if you prevent
the situations that lead up to this. Here are some things to keep in
mind:
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When baby is tired, put him
down for a nap or to sleep.
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Feed your baby frequently.
Babies have small tummies and need regular nourishment.
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Give your baby toys that are
geared to his age and ability level.
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Warn your baby before changing
activities (“One more swing, then we’re going home”).
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Be patient when putting your
baby in an unfamiliar environment or when introducing him to new
people.
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Help your baby learn new skills
(such as climbing stairs or working puzzles).
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Keep your expectations
realistic; don’t expect more than your baby is capable of.
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As much as possible, keep a
regular and predictable schedule.
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When your baby is overly
emotional, keep yourself as calm as possible.
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Use a soothing tone of voice
and gentle touch to help your baby calm down. He can’t do it on
his own, he needs your help.
This
article is an excerpt from Gentle Baby Care by
Elizabeth Pantley.
elizabeth@pantley.com.
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