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Issue 11





About Children

How to Stop Yelling, Nagging, Pleading and Get Kids to Cooperate

From the book, Kid Cooperation
by Elizabeth Pantley


Positive Thinking For Kids

During their growth and development, children go through many stages of self-doubt. They are always comparing themselves to others, and they often see themselves as coming up short. As parents, we can offset this natural tendency in our children by giving them the skills to think more positively. It is important that you really listen to your children, and help them overcome their negative thoughts and beliefs. This is, of course, easier to do if you practice positive thinking yourself.

Our world is so full of negative feedback. We need to arm our children with a positive attitude, so that they can stay focused in the right direction. Letís look at some typical negative statements from children, along with some positive responses from their wise parents:

I canít do it.

Take your time and try again. I have confidence in you.

Heather hates me.

Sounds like youíre feeling rejected by Heather, and that must hurt. I know you want Heather to like you. Remember that youíre a very lovable kid and a terrific person, no matter what Heather, or anyone else, says or does. And, you know, she may have a problem that has nothing to do with you.

Iím just no good in history.

Youíve brought up Cs beforeóI know you can do it again. Besides that, honey, nobody is good at everything. And look at this A in math, youíve always done well with numbers!

Iím so clumsy. Iíll never learn to rollerblade!

Itís tough learning something new. Remember when you first tried to ski, how hard it was? But you stuck with it, and now youíre really good at skiing.

There is real value in discussing positive thinking and self-esteem with your children on a regular basis. Sadly, these subjects are not yet included in the school curriculum. There are good books written for children, as well as adults, which demonstrate the use of positive thinking. Reading a book together is a good launching pad for starting a conversation. Pointing out positive versus negative attitudes from news stories or life stories is an excellent way of showing your children just how this all works in real life, too.

The Daily Motivator is a great web site for finding lots of wonderful positive messages.

Modeling a positive attitude is one of the most effective ways of teaching your children. Children learn what they live. So start presenting your thoughts in a positive way, Oh well, I burned the dinneróguess that means we get to eat cereal for dinner!

Parents always hope that their children will have a positive outlook on life, but most often how this happens is left to chance. When you take this matter into your hands, and look for ways to guide your childrenís thoughts in a positive direction, you will see very exciting results.

Robert and Elizabeth Pantley with their four children.

Click here to visit Elizabeth's web site and peruse her full range of books and services.

Parenting educator Elizabeth Pantley is president of Better Beginnings Inc., a family resource and education company. Pantley frequently speaks to parents in schools, hospitals, and parent groups, and her presentations are received with enthusiasm and praise.


'Behold, I will bring them from the north country, And gather them from the ends of the earth,
 Among  them the blind and the lame, The woman with child and The one who labors with child,  together,
 A great throng shall return there...And My people shall be satisfied with My goodness, says the LORD.'
 Jeremiah 31:8, 14~~~
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November 2009